We all talk about new year resolutions and goals, but as we progress through the year, most of our resolutions fade away and we are back to square. Resolutions create pressure in our mind. Resolution is a promise, a declaration which we may not uphold because we commit to it out of excitement as we unfold the new page of the new year. We just flow with the momentum and give in without really analyzing what we want, can do, what we are committed to doing and the like. As we start, our dopamine levels are pretty high and we feel so happy to declare our resolutions, but as we move ahead, we give up when we don't get the results as expected. We forget our bad habits, we forget our patterns and we just jump in with the resolutions. We can't remodel our lives overnight! We focus on the results and not the actions that are required to produce that result. What happens then, we get demotivated easily. We give up easily. We are in too much of a hurry and don't really enjoy the process. We know what we want, but we don't know why we want that. But, the key here is being consistent and being in the game. So, instead of resolutions, what if you live by a word each passing day that would take you closer to your dream, your goal, your inner commitment?! What is the word that you would love to live by in 2019 to enable you closer to your final destination? This word can be anything that you want to challenge yourself with, gift yourself with and push your limits. That's the infinite resolution you make and this wouldn't create any pressure but your zeal to live in the moment, be in the present moment will increase. All the energy that we waste in thinking about the past, worrying about the future, will then be fully used to leverage the present moment. And interestingly, this will increase our productivity, our performance, our ability to think, create and innovate. The word that I choose for myself this year is deep connection. I have no resolutions, no goals, but yes inner commitment to form deep connections with people whose lives I am committed to impact. And being consistent in doing that is the key to success.
Life is all about experimenting and doing what you are fearful of doing. You need to listen to your heart and pick up that word that you deeply feel. The mind will carve out a way forward. Whatever word you choose for yourself, be mindful of giving yourself that first. Only when you can experience that, you will be able to create it for others. For instance, if as a Sales person your target is to make X no of sales this year, then focusing on just the number won't serve the purpose. You have to think deeply and figure out what would enable you to achieve that target. What input you need to give in to realize that target? Some introspection, some reflection will help and you will able to figure out a word that you have to own up in you to be that sales person who would achieve his/her target effortlessly and joyously. Just live by that every moment. As you progress, you may get Nos along the path, but remind yourself of your inner commitment, the word that you have committed to live by and keep taking actions every day, in every act of yours. As you develop consistency, you will realize that you have come much closer to your target than what you thought of. All of us dream, desire; but only a handful of us fulfill our intentions and why?! Our decision to either give up or grow, will determine our success in attaining the goals that we have set for ourselves. Do check the learning circle below to get better insights about this.
Wishing you success, joy and fulfillment of your inner commitment. Be the mirror for yourself, be your own competition. Start living the word that you have picked up for yourself.
Love & light, Priyanka
Coach to People Leaders, Start-up Founders & Transitioning professionals