When we talk of leaders, mostly at the top, men outnumber women not because the latter is incapable but because of the many factors that create a difficult path for the women to the top. Here I am not talking of the very fortunate ones, but general trend says that most mid-career women align their career aspirations with that of the changing dynamics of the environment that she is in. Many data, surveys are a testimony to this fact and I am sure you all will agree. Well, I am aware of the adage, “Exceptions are always there”. Probably, that’s why the hope & scope for widening the numbers are high too. I don’t want to be tagged as a feminist, but would definitely like to voice out the reasons why many women take a back-seat after having a good career at the mid-stage or rather unable to make it to the top leadership roles. There are a few who does try to move ahead despite all odds, but somehow, the amount of challenges that they face, is beyond perception & realization unless and until you are on the same footing.
One of the major reasons for which many women consciously take a break/sabbatical from their work is to take care of their child. And, once she is biologically ready to be back to her work, she has to put in double the efforts, self-boost her confidence level, give explanations every now and then for the need to balance out things at home & office etc. etc. The list goes on. I know many matured & established organizations do have a good come-back policy & second career options for women. Many empathizing/matured Organizations are coming up too for helping women get back to work after the gap. I congratulate them and they are the hopes for such women. But, despite of all, women finally have to do it for her no matter what amount of support she gets.
Few factors that cause women to realign their career mindsets once they decide to comeback from the break period are:
I would be more than glad to have your thoughts and views after reading this write-up of mine. Let’s try to figure out ways to make a positive difference in the lives of these women. # Kudos to the spirit of not giving up
Eroding value system
Many years back my well-wishers suggested me to start my own blog. But I always gave excuses saying that writing was just my way of expressing emotions very personal to me. It’s all about my perspective & my learnings about any situation or incident which I only penned down in my diary and left it there. But today, I wish to honour that suggestion of my loved ones & express myself because I believe the emotions that are running through me are nothing new to all but very common, something that every professional if not always, have asked himself/herself at least once in his/her career span/lifetime. Thereafter, I am sure they have stopped asking this question to themselves for various reasons. Yes, you got it right; the question is about value system in the corporate world, the cut throat corporate world. Recollect our school days when we had our moral science class and were taught about values, ethics and the greatness of being just, right, and morally rich. But, with time, this learning starts to contradict with the practical scenario that you face in every stage of your life. You start accepting that it is okay not to diligently follow the values that were imbibed by your parents, teachers during your growing years. You start believing that it is okay to leave it at bay because that’s required to fit yourself in this glossy and wavering crowd or else you’ll be left behind in the rat race. You then start justifying yourself about the deeds that follow one after another. And yes, you feel good because you are not alone in doing this. This is the so called culture and prevalent environment which takes a toll on your value system. With time, you start going far and come to a juncture where your conscience even stops questioning you, because you quietened it long back. I have had discussions with many professionals and they say that they are sad about the eroding value system, but they don’t have a choice. The one who dares to make a choice is either thrown out of the system or becomes stagnant in the career path. Well, I do not wish to generalise that this is the plight everywhere, but sadly most of the places. Can we not dare to make a choice & choose to live a life that really matters? Can we not be successful without compromising our value systems? I have made a choice to live by my principles; I have dared to pen it down and I am happy about it. I leave this with a thought for you to ponder upon. We can bring about the change if we strongly feel for it. We don’t need any motivation for this but just courage, determination & a clear conscience. Last but not the least, hats off to those unsung heroes who stood by the moral values & never let it erode; fought every odds that came their way & became truly successful. They have inspired many souls including me. #Gratitude & respect
Life & Organizational Development Coach