"Intuition is the whisper of the soul", says #JidduKrishnamurti.
To listen to the whisper, you must be still, present & aligned with your #innerbeing. #AbrahamHicks too said, "Your inner being is saying to you: you just need to follow us & we'll guide you around all of this resistance. We'll guide you around it, we'll guide you to what you want around all this resistance."
If you take a moment to reflect on what this #life is all about, you'll realize that our lives have purposes unique to us. Ultimately it is a walk towards liberation and how well you played your part. Clearly we have not come here to be clones of each other but to express our uniqueness. Our #excellence lies in our uniqueness and to embrace that uniqueness in us, we must allow our true selves to be seen, accepted and acknowledged by us. No one will find us, but we must.
The famous Psychoanalyst D W Winnicot says, "It is a joy to be hidden, and disaster not to be found." But the moment we take birth, we fall into the grind of conditioning and slowly deviate from who we are and become a part of the herd. We start wearing the facade and gravitate towards paths that is not a reflection of our true strengths and desires. We reject, disown, deny our true selves which lead to fragmentation within and thus we lose touch with our internal compass. Our internal guidance system is actually how we feel. But we supress our very own guidance system and thus our inability to listen to it.
Few years back, I realized that I never honoured my own guidance system and thus gravitated towards people, paths and tribes that weren't a reflection of who truly I am. Something was always missing depsite of all the success, recognition & acheivement.
I then decided to make my internal guidance system my compass for navigating my way out.There was resistance because I was used to approval receiving, information seeking, validation from the outside. But slowly as I took the tiny step towards deciding based on what my intuition was telling me, I started unravelling a goldmine within and gravitated towards the tribe that was always waiting with arms wide open to receive me.
We are often placed in environments which is exactly the opposite of what we truly desire and intent. Because the facade attracted that and manifested that into our space. Unless and until we choose to embrace ourselves, we can never find our path, our purpose in life.
As you integrate parts within you, as you become aware of the fragmentation within, you realise that the path to liberation is never in changing the outer world but in truly embracing and being in alignment with your inner being. We all are sourced from one Source Energy and share the same #essence. This is a profound #awareness and then how we see everyone changes.
This time I decided to stay at an #airbnb for my trip to Mumbai. And there I met the daughter of the legendary #FilmDirector, #BimalRoy, Rinki Roy Bhattacharya who is a celebrity in her own way. She is an acclaimed author, member of censor board & chairperson of Bimal Roy Film Society. Choosing the airbnb was an intuitive decision on my part. Only when I reached the airbnb I got to know what a profound lineage the host has! I was pleasantly surprised and my heart is filled with gratitude for the wondeful time that I spent there, learning more about her journey and about the film world. I felt connected to her & experienced her vulnerable side which made me realize that unless we care for people, we can never know them deeply. I met so many wonderful celebrities during my stay there. Got an invite from the famous Maithli Rao who is a film critic and celebrated writer to be at her book launch. Her new book: The Millennial Woman In Bollywood A New Brand? was launched by the noted actress Vidya Balan & I was a part of it. One of the wonderful moments in my life that I shall cherish forever! I didn't expect that all these was in store for me. Thanks to my #intuition!
This time I decided to stay a little longer. And that's when I got an opportunity to listen to Dr. Pawan Agrawal, who is Mumbai Dabbawala's authorised speaker, an international motivational speaker and Founder & President of Kamalabai Educational and Charitable Trust, Mumbai. His humility touched me. And what he choses to do: higlight the immense possibility in human beings, inspired me.
This world is so beautiful only if we choose to see it and elevate ourselves to #bethechange. When I meet such people, I am always inspired and feel joyful. Can't stop quoting the butterfly effect here:
Even a minor shift can have a tremendous effect. Like butterfly's flapping of wings which is capable of altering the path of tornado.
The choice is ours. We can choose to deny our intuition or decide to follow it and contribute towards Universal expansion.
Leaving you with this declaration by the great environmentalist Paul Hawken, “What I see everywhere in the world are ordinary people willing to confront despair, power, and incalculable odds in order to restore some semblance of grace, justice, and beauty to this world.”
What you choose to see will determine how this world will be. That's the start of everything. And your choice shall determine your strategy & action plan. And that's your #karma. What you put out comes back to you. You are the maker of your life.
Thank you Universe!
Believing in you,
#coachpriyankadutta #lifecoach #intuition #magic
Do you deny being jealous?
"#Jealousy is a #feeling of #being angry or sad because you want to be like somebody else or because you want what somebody else has," says the dictionary. How many times have you denied this feeling and jumped on to the feeling of celebration for another's success, achievement or for who they are?! Well, if you are honest, brutally honest and aware of your own emotions, you'll realise that we all feel all the feelings and jealousy is one of them. It's absolutely a normal phenomenon to be jealous. But, do we normalise that?! No, we don't and thus we don't know how to handle it in a healthy way that can propel us forward instead of holding us back in its stuck energy.
Just take your two fingers and put it on your pulse. Can you feel the pulse? Well, if you can you are human and thus it is absolutely valid to be jealous. But the point of concern is that, we so often deny this feeling. We don't give ourselves the permission to feel it, be with it and so it manifests in unconscious ways, ways that we may be regretful of. It then takes an ugly form, develop a strong resentment towards the person rather than just realizing that it is but a natural feeling that we all feel. The key is to be present with it and aware of it.
Couple of years back, during one of the group sessions on embodying emotions where I was a participant, a co-participant when asked this question: "What are you feeling and why?" She said that she was jealous of me and who I was. I was not taken aback because I knew what jealousy felt like and that it was totally normal to feel it that way. I felt compassion for her and brought back memories of times when I felt this feeling and I was gaslighted. I was shunned and made to like other's achievement, celebrate them. That all is fine, but what about the processing of the jealous feeling? Does anyone tell us how to do it? How to undergo the completion process of any intense feeling? That's altogether a different area of work that we can learn and master. I am glad that over the years of my journey as a #coach, I have learnt to process my feelings, undergo the completion process and transcend my emotions to a more empowering one. Mind you, it is a repeat process and you have to do the work whenever you catch yourself feeling it.
Next time you are jealous of another, take a moment to be aware that you are feeling this, give yourself permission to be 100% present with it and then allow your natural state of compassion to flow in, not just for you but for the person you are jealous of too. When you are present, you enable natural allowing of surfacing of emotions. Hence, after a point it is not enough knowing the science of it, but mastering the art.
The fact that you are jealous points out to the fact that you could recognize something in that person that is reflective of your desires and who you want to be.
So, take a moment to thank the person for triggering that feeling in you and do the work on yourself.What do I mean by that? Instead of sulking over and shaming yourself for being jealous or plotting to bring the person down to feel good; once you have given permission to yourself to feel whatever you are feeling, ask yourself this question, empowering question: "What can I do today to start in the smallest possible way to be the person that I am actually jealous of which in reality is admiration in disguise or how can I embody the qualities that the person have, starting in my own little way?" And before you realize, you'll know that the feeling of resentment is gone and you are again in your centre, ready to unleash the potential within you.
The measure of true #success is never about victory or perfection, but how good are you at responding to what it is. And this applies to your feelings too.
Don't deny, learn to respond. Accept the reality of what you are feeling as it is.The moment you master the art of holding both the emotions: that which we deny and that which we are conditioned to, you will find yourself at a space that is so liberating and beyond your feelings. That's who you are. More than your emotions but emotions are a part of your existence.
This post is inspired by a conversation that I had with a #professional who had the #courage and #humilty to accept that he did play dirty games because he was #jealous of his #colleague and without even realizing it, tried to #sabotage his career. And he is regretful of his behaviour. As a coach, my job is to let the person #transcend to his true nature of #compassion and #love. For once you are aware of your coping strategies, the sleepwalking is over. When a person is transforming, we must allow it to be and not impose our idealism onto it. We all deserve a second chance.
Believing in you,
#coaching #transformation #coachpriyankadutta
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