Have you ever wondered why things keep repeating in your life? The same experience keeps occurring time & again till you become aware of your pattern & do something to either change or heal. Behaviour patterns are the characteristic ways in which a person acts. I am reminded of a very thoughtful quote here: "We attract what we radiate". This many a times left me wondering because I couldn't really understand the deeper essence of this phrase. But, now after experiencing deeper inner shift, after analyzing my client's patterns including mine, after experiencing & reading lots of relevant stuffs, I get what this actually means.
As we grow, we change, our behaviour change, we think differently, we become conscious of many things; good/bad and maturity envelops us. But, that inner child within us still radiates certain parts of us that was probably hurt when young, probably feared certain things then, some unresolved issues inside still dwells that manifest in certain patterns unknown to us. This is the root of the behaviour patterns that we display as an adult. Interestingly, this is manifested at an unconscious level and hence the confusion is more. We grow up but the unresolved issues keep projecting in one form or other. Thus, we keep attracting what we radiate. That inner child which experienced certain things in life, maintains certain rules to protect us unconsciously, without our awareness even when we grow up. But, the truth is, as grown ups we don't need that protection any more. We are equipped now and so it is important to deal with that to express our highest self.
Whatever you have experienced in your life, you have unconsciously attracted that. This may be anything starting from people, situation, things, environment, energies. So, look past and analyze the similarity or repeated patterns in your life. You will find the answer.
For instance, as a child if you believed/made to belief that you are not good enough and that belief got imprinted deeply; then as an adult even if you grow up to be an awesome person and attract good people around you; somehow the inner child having self-esteem issues will keep doing stuffs that will manifest that belief. The people around will be confused, including you because that is done at an unconscious level. This person then will have difficulty in building fruitful relationships be it in personal or professional life. External validation will be important, insecurity will surface and this will be contradictory to the behaviour of that grown up person.
Well, this is little complex; but this awareness will itself pave the way for your growth as a matured person. Embracing the inner child is very important. Acknowledging the patter is again crucial.
Let your mind swirl a bit. We repeat what we don't repair. What are you waiting for?
Life & Organizational Development Coach