When you blame & criticize others, you are avoiding some truths about yourself; you are losing out on the opportunity to improve yourself. Yes, we have an innate tendency of blaming others. That's our coping mechanism of dealing with our hidden fears about ourselves. That way we protect ourselves from emotional harm, pain & embarrassment. But the truth is, we are harming ourselves more by doing this. Blame is a negative energy, it creates fear, stress which shuts our ability to think wisely & beyond the petty issues. Blaming only projects our inner restlessness and we lose the creativity to find solutions for the problem at hand.
A joyous peaceful person, a wise individual, a great leader rises above the blame game and sees past it. He/she creates an intent of looking beyond and not just winning in the moment. This not only dissipates the negative energy but enables others to mirror the positive behavior. It needs lot of effort to rise above the gratification of winning trivial fights & proving others wrong. But, when your intent is good, then this difficult process becomes easy. You become capable of transferring your negative emotions into something positive. Once you start practicing this, you become agile in doing this with much grace & ease.
Who will gain at the end of this blame game? The one who plays will never, because the energy will all be wasted in playing this useless game of just satisfying each other's ego. The one who cuts the flow of negativity, the one who doesn't replicate the negative behaviour but embraces wisdom to drop the ego & looks into the problem with an attitude of solving it, with an intent of finding a solution which will serve both, shall be the one who will gain immensely.
Easier said than done, in the heat of the moment, we all tend to loose the patience & wisdom. But, this craft mastery has to be done if you want to be a leader par excellence, a human being beyond the triviality. Falling isn't bad, but every time you falter, when you intent to go back to the righteous path is what determines your essence.
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