"Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life."- J K Rowling.
Life doesn't end there, in fact life starts from your rock bottom. If you think that I am saying these words to soothe you, then just google to have a look at all the successful names who rebuilt their lives from an absolute state of despair. They rose up like the phoenix & flew higher than ever before. They converted their very rock bottom into foundation for growth & excellence. They leveraged their challenges into opportunities, they converted their weaknesses into learning opportunities & shone brighter than they could even think of. True to its words, sometimes it requires an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough.
Rock bottom can be experienced in any aspect of your life. It can be a dead-end in your career, a closure of a relationship that mattered to you, an end of a part of you that needed healing, a phase of your life which held meaningful & fundamental significance for you. Anything that makes you feel like you have lost everything you thought that life could offer.
As you reach the rock bottom, you feel like your world has crashed down upon you and broken into pieces. You are left with nothing but a feeling of vacuum from inside. Fear, despair, frustration, lifelessness hits you. The world moves on leaving you stuck at your life's lowest point. These are the times when you are judged, when all your negatives are highlighted, you are made to feel as if you are good for nothing. It is during this time that our self-critic is at its peak. But remember that sometimes you have to go through the hard times to realize how strong you can be. Sometimes you need to experience this to value those aspects & parts of your being that you never paid heed to or got access to.
In order to rise up like the phoenix, something needs to shift inside of you to bring about a drastic transformation. You can't keep playing the game the way you did. You have to play it differently, because now your battlefield is pretty different from the ones that you had been playing. The moment you decide that you need to now stand up on this rock solid, gather yourself & move to a newness of your existence, that's when you embrace the first step towards transformation. This is one of the most difficult phases and many perish here. How do you move on from here? You need to ask yourself this question again & again till you find the answer yourself. And I know you will because every person is whole, complete, resourceful & unique; only if you are willing to look for the wisdom inside.
At this point, you have to trust yourself more than anyone else. You have to trust your strengths, your abilities, the person that you are which no one else can see. You cannot leave yourself alone but churn the inner power to take the tiny step forward. When you have survived the pain, what else can deter you?! Nothing, except for the figment of your own imagination. If you choose to be victim, you remain a victim. You have the power to create, only if you believe in its power. If you want to see if you are in the victim state or the creator state, then do click here for a self-assessment (Locating yourself: Above or Below). It is important to ask oneself, if I should be in the victim state or move on from that state & transition into a creative state of mind. Which is more empowering?
Will you leave this legacy of being a failure or the legacy of being a successful person rebounding from the bottom, setting an example for generations to follow?! Success is not in never failing, but in rebounding.
"You are given this life because you are strong enough to live it."
PS. I dedicate this post to all those people who have hit the rock bottom of their lives; specially to one of my friends who is at the rock bottom of life. I welcome you all to move one tiny step at a time towards life, growth & prosperity. I am there to support you in this journey. Welcome to a new phase: RISE AGAIN.
Coach to People Leaders, Start-up Founders & Transitioning professionals