"Each of us has the right and the responsibility to assess the roads which lie ahead, and those over which we have traveled, and if the future road looms ominous or unpromising, and the roads back uninviting, then we need to gather our resolve and, carrying only the necessary baggage, step off that road into another direction. If the new choice is also unpalatable, without embarrassment, we must be ready to change that as well."
The powerful quote above by Maya Angelou sums it all. We all carry emotional baggage, our scars, our guilt, our fears, the pain of loss...The choice lies in us, whether we choose to be a peaceful warrior or a wounded soul all throughout our lives. When we live in the past consciously/unconsciously, we are doing no good to our present & our future. Life wasn't just meant to be perfect but it is a learning ground in which we experiment, we make mistakes and then discover who we are. Nobody can say that they haven't made mistakes. If they say, they are lying. Some people can move on quickly, not let the emotional baggage weigh them down. But some people take time, even years and even lifetime.
You may not be able to get over the emotional baggage completely but you can let it go slowly. The first process of dropping your emotional baggage is forgiveness. And the first one you need to forgive is yourself and then others involved.
Why emotional cleansing is important? Why healing is important? Because it will help you to see life from a different perspective: a clean space of gratitude & love for yourself & others. Only from a space of acknowledgement, you can create what you want to create. When your heart is filled with anger, guilt, fear, hatred, jealously, vengeance and other negative emotions, you can never be the best version of yourself. These negative emotions will weigh you down however strong you might be or think you might be. So, the first thing that you need to do is to love yourself unconditionally. Love yourself with the scars. Before expecting others to love you, you need to love yourself. You are enough. You don't need anyone else to fill your cup, you can fill it on your own. Once you learn to do this, you can then experience gratitude for everyone including the ones that hurt you or were a part of your baggage. Once you level yourself up to this space, you can enable others to mirror back good behaviour. The leader in you has to first embody that to inspire others to even dare to try.
Dare to walk the path that others have feared to walk & you'll see a new person born inside you along this journey.
Here's to a new beginning, a new perspective, a baggage-free life filled with love, gratitude & compassion for yourself & everyone.
Coach to People Leaders, Start-up Founders & Transitioning professionals